Monday, November 23, 2015

A Series on Confidence: Grass-root Communications

Confidence is an incredible attribute that no one is born with, but some are born into it. What I mean is that there are people who were born into a family of confident parents and siblings and it naturally robs off on them. They grow up to be confident individuals because it was one of the main aspects of their socialization. Just because someone was born into a confident family doesn't mean that it’s the only way to develop the trait. Parents and siblings can help one another build their confidence. The way to do it is by constantly expressing positive thoughts about and towards one another. Communication plays a huge role in building self-confidence as well as relationships.

If all you ever say to your child or sibling is how not good enough they are and how someone who looks like them never makes it, you are not helping. First of all, no one chooses how they are born, what features they will have or even family they will be a part of. These things are predestinated. However, we all have a role to play in one another’s lives. Every time we waste our time tearing someone else down, that’s a time we will never get back and a heart we have broken. I particularly find people who say that they say it like they see it very appalling. If tearing somebody else down is the only way they feel better about themselves, that is very sad. Tearing someone else down does not increase our self-esteem. This next part is for those who are currently facing the type of people I have just described. Don’t allow what someone says about you or to you make you feel less important or steal your confidence. I want you to remember that it is broken people who try to break others. You have got to limit the amount of time you spend around such a person or change your circle.

If you want to change your life and become a better version of yourself, you have got to change your company and start doing something different. You can not keep doing the same thing and expect a different result. It is my desire that by the end of this series on building your self-confidence that you will discover the rare gem that is you. Parents reading this, the way that you communicate with your child could either make or break their confidence. Don’t ever make your child feel not good enough. Believe in him/her and show it through your words and actions. Siblings reading this, be supportive of one another. Do not allow jealousy and strife make you destroy one another’s confidence. Be mindful of what you say and do to one another. You could be the one who inspires confidence in the other. Being mean to your sibling out of jealousy will not make you any better or feel any better. Let love rule your hearts towards one another to form a foundation that the world of mean and ungodly people will not be able to break, no matter how hard they try.