If you don’t accept and appreciate your child the way he/she is, no one else will. No child has ever asked to be born or conceived. For you to be entrusted with such an amazing gift, it is your responsibility to accept and appreciate that gift in all of it’s flaws and glory. The confidence of a child grows or dies based on how that child is perceived and treated by his/her parents and caretakers. Children should be loved by parents unconditionally and without restraint. Your child is your product. When people come around your child, they see and judge the parent by whatever attitude he/she displays in public and in the company of others.
You could love and accept them in all their flaws without holding back. When you do that, when your children face the harsh judgment and criticism of the world, it will not force them to conform but to standout by embracing who they are un-apologetically. I’m sick of children dying and committing suicide in developed countries because of the harsh criticisms they face from bullies and other children who were raised by bad parents. Parents need to spend more time raising their children instead of creating monsters.