Monday, November 7, 2016

MARRIAGE SECRETS NOBODY TOLD ME


Hey there. Welcome back to my blog. I hope that your day is going well. Well, I wanted to help someone rekindle their love today. Before we start, I have to WARN you! DON'T REKINDLE A RELATIONSHIP WITH AN ABUSER! If you are married to an abuser, you should be SEEKING help in order to get out of that union.
Back to the topic. I have friends who complain about not feeling the "SPARK" in their relationship with their spouse anymore. Well, for starters, the so called "SPARK," is overrated and should be debunked! When you're married to someone, the initial sexual attraction will wane a good bit but your love and respect for that person shouldn't. As we grow older marriage goes beyond being sex partners, to being soulmates. That's not to say that sex is not important. It is very important. However, unlike those early stages where it seemed spontaneous, now you have to make it a part of your life and create time and space for it. You have to put in the work and time to keep your sex life with your spouse on FIRE! I'm not trying to scare you but YOU WILL HAVE TO PUT IN THE EFFORT AND TIME TO keep your sexual life in marriage going. There are people who compare their passion to other couples' and get jealous when they feel like they are not having as much fun. There are people who are great at pretending to be having a Great time when people are watching but it's a whole different ball game when they are alone with their spouses. You know what works for you and your spouse, STICK WITH IT. Sometimes you may need to learn, with your spouse, how to make your lives more passionate on your own. Here are a few ways to SPARK UP your passion with your spouse: 1.
Spend time together and keep dating each other. If you don't spend time with your spouse as much as possible, chances are your spark will wane.
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You and your spouse should make time to pursue same hobbies together. It is always helpful to enjoy your spouse outside of the home, doing things that interest both of you. For instance, if you both enjoy running or playing a sport, do it together. It will increase your closeness and SPARK UP your lives.
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Remind each other that marriage takes work. If you don't work on your differences together, you will grow apart. Your spouse will piss you off sometimes, learn to forgive and let go!
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Appreciate and celebrate each other as much as possible. Be each others cheerleaders.
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Remember what first attracted you to each other and talk about it and keep that spirit alive!
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Serve God together in prayer and service. A God-centered home is a STRONG home!
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Communicate with each other. Instead of talking at each other, try talking with each other.
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Be kind to each other and celebrate each other.
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Lovingly correct each other instead of being critical of each other all the time. Your spouse may do something that you don't like sometime, instead of disliking your spouse, dislike that thing that they do and let them know. Don't let the dislike cross over to your spouse. It's dangerous!
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Finally, DON'T STAY APART for too long. When either of you is ALWAYS gone, it may affect the relationship. No matter how hard you work, know that your family is very important. Don't allow your job to take the place of your family. After all, you work to provide for your family right? Don't get too carried away by your job and career, that all life means to you is work, work and work. Learn to work smart and prioritize properly if you want a family to share life with. Remember to be compassionate towards each other. Where your spouse is lacking, be there to make up for it. you may be one of those people who is married to a clueless person but that's not grounds to break up. Be communicative and sometimes you may need to get someone your both trust to talk some CLUE into your spouse in order to work on your relationships. Life is supposed to be beautiful and shared with family. Remember that you're NOT TRANSPARENT and so is your spouse. Communication is a very important KEY to a happy and thriving marriage and home! I love you for reading this to the end. Go back and give your spouse a BIG KISS and let them know you care!